A new mom has begged people on the web for advice as she admitted that her husband isn’t the father she thought he would be. 

The unnamed mother – who gave birth to a baby boy 10 weeks ago –  confessed that she had begun ‘resenting’ her spouse – who she has been with for eight years – because of his lack of care as a dad. 

She took to Reddit to reveal she felt ‘alone’ because she was doing all of the work, adding that she wished her partner would ‘act like a real parent.’ 

In a thread titled, ‘Parenting,’ the new mom opened up about the difficulties of parenting alone as she revealed her husband won’t even make her food when he makes himself dinner. 

The mom-of-one begged people for advice as she shared that she was frustrated with the way her life had turned out. 

A new mom has begged people on the web for advice as she admitted that her husband isn’t the father she thought he would be (stock image)

She titled the post: ‘My husband isn’t the dad I thought he would be.’ 

The mom revealed that she and her husband – whom she didn’t name – have been together for eight years but married for one. 

And while she always felt like the housework was equally split in the past, she noted that her husband’s personality changed after they welcomed their baby boy. 

She revealed: ‘We had a baby boy 10 weeks ago and his colors have really shown since. His only child syndrome has really been shining especially. 

‘When he is home, I have to ask to take a shower, ask to have him hold the baby, ask him to change diaper, ask ask ask. And then when he does what I ask, he acts like it’s a burden. 

‘Then when I am doing things like taking a shower, all I hear is our baby cry and when I come up to check, he’s on his phone while the baby is crying in the bouncer. And the second I’m back, he gives me the baby.’

The mom further explained that her spouse didn’t even take her into consideration when making food.

She revealed that if her husband made or picked up dinner, he would only make enough for himself. 

She took to Reddit to reveal she felt ‘alone’ because she was doing all of the work, adding that she wished her partner would ‘act like a real parent’ 

‘He also eats all of our food. If I make a grocery pick up order, all of the food is gone within three days. He will pick up food for himself or make food for himself and not me. 

‘I am breastfeeding and because I’m constantly holding, feeding, rocking, loving on our baby boy, I don’t have much time to get food for myself or hydrate. 

‘I just wish he would DO. I wish he would act like a real parent. I never in a million years thought it would be this way. 

‘He goes to the gym everyday before he works for 10 hours. So he only gets to see his son for about 30 good minutes but even then, he doesn’t pick him up or anything,’ she added. 

The mom admitted that she felt extremely ‘alone’ and has started ‘resenting’ her spouse. 

At the end of the post, she said: ‘I feel so alone. I’m starting to resent him. I can’t stand to hear about his life outside of this house. I’m drowning and he has absolutely no concept of what I’m sacrificing everyday. I love our baby so much but I’m questioning if I ever should’ve had him with my husband. This is not what I signed up for.

People on the web flocked to the comments section and offered the new mom a wave of advice

‘What do I do? I feel like I’ve voiced frustrations but nothing changes. I know I can’t leave him but I also don’t want anything to do with him currently. I am so lost.’

People on the web flocked to the comments section and offered the new mom a wave of advice. 

One user said: ‘I would straight up tell him that. “You are not the dad I thought you would be and your behavior is making me resent you.” Then you decide for yourself how much and for how long are you will to put up with this. ‘ 

Someone else added: ‘It’s tough when reality doesn’t match expectations. Have you had a heart-to-heart about how you’re feeling? Sometimes, guys just need a nudge to step up. Communication might help bridge that gap.’ 

‘The time to be direct is now. Find out if he’s willing to change and put in the work, if not you’d literally be better off on your own,’ added another user. 

‘You absolutely can leave. You are allowed to leave whenever you want,’ someone else commented. 

‘Cut the dead weight loose. He’s a man child. Sincerely, a husband and father,’ wrote one person.